Becoming Your True Self – Perfect Love

By Gita Saraydarian

Love is wonderful and we all want it and we search for it everywhere. We want love that lasts forever and is perfect and immortal. Nothing wrong with that except for the fact that we look for that kind of love in all the wrong places! In the world of illusion, a world that is always changing, we are looking for permanency and eternity.

We think we know how to find love and we go about it in ways that are familiar to us, or biologically or emotionally make sense to us. We are attracted to a certain look, a certain smell, a certain way of dress and behavior. It is all based on our biological needs as well as on our upbringing, culture, media, and education. We think love is a special person who looks and smells a certain way, does things in a certain way, sends certain gifts or gives us gifts in a certain way. Love is that special music; that special poem, or that special color. When there is recognizable love, we think we know it because it fits our expectations and conditioning.

We are constantly matching the outer signals with our inner expectations and conditioning in order to feel loved, to give love, to accept love, to behave lovingly, or to choose lovingly. If these inner and outer signals do not match up, then there is no love or love shrinks or love is held back or limited, or the vibrant love that we once felt is shriveled up and dies and we start to look again for that special love....

The most precious thing in our life is love, a love that lasts forever, a love that is immortal, fearless, nurturing, perfect in all ways. We want our parents, spouses and children, lovers, and friends to have this love toward us and we toward them. We want to feel this toward ourselves and most often, are not even aware of the fact that we do not consider ourselves lovingly. We can find it only when we understand that it exists in a place that our normal education and culture does not show us. That perfect love we seek is inside each of us, part of the immortal self that is the soul in us.

We have not realized that love energy in its essence is unconditional, immortal, never begins and never ends. We cannot love one day and stop loving the next day. When you decide to love, it cannot be taken away from you regardless of what happens around you. We cannot grasp the true essence of love until we expand our consciousness to be able to grasp a picture of life that is beyond our personality life. Real love is on the level of the Higher Self, the level of the divine essence in us, the True Self in us.

One of my all time favorite travel companion book says it beautifully:

"Oh, there is a Love which fears nothing, which is greater than life and greater than death. I am that Love. There is a Love which knows no limit, which is everywhere, which is in the presence of death, and which is all-tender even in the Terrible. I am that Love. There is a Love which is Unutterably Sweet, which welcomes all pain, which welcomes all fear, which drives away all sadness, which is wheresoever thou dost search for it. I am that Love. Oh, I am the very Essence of that Love. And, O, My own Self, I, that Love, am Thine Own Self, My nature is Love! I am Love Itself! (In the Hours of Meditation by Frank Alexander, p. 29.)"

If you want immortal and unconditional love, you can find it. But, you are not going to find it in the limited parts of life. Yes, it is possible and I have seen it operate. When you decide to love, even in the terrible, no matter what happens, a tremendous healing takes place inside of you. You feel released. You do not have to hurt, nor grieve, nor regret; you can simply decide to love.
Divine love asks of us, and requires it from us, that we give up our attachment to every pain, every memory, every loss, every grief, every sadness and we are open and secure in our hearts to love and to know that we are an inherently lovable person. If we can find that source of love inside of us, we can then find it in people and life conditions around us. It is the greatest human strength and testimony to the resilience of the human heart to be able to find love in the terrible, the fearful, and the painful parts of life and to turn these around to the most nurturing and fruitful energy that heals us and helps us carry out our purpose and direction as human beings.

A brief YouTube clip of the second step of finding your True Self is attached below. You may also view the clip by linking directly to the YouTube site.





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I wish for you eternal love.
Enjoy!
Gita


- Gita Saraydarian is the Founder and President of TSG Foundation, an organization dedicated to the Ageless Wisdom Teachings. See the complete list of past blogs and other writings on this link.
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-The information in this Essay is for spiritual upliftment and does not claim to give medical advice nor psychological advice.