My Wisdom on Life and Love

By Gita Saraydarian

A friend recently asked me what is my wisdom on life and love. Well, I thought, how could I answer such a complex question? It is huge. Then, I pondered on it. Yes, of course I can answer this question. After all, I have developed some insights about life as I have lived and loved and struggled to find truth. However, my insights are governed by my focus.

In the greater life, I am a speck of dust moving according to my focus of consciousness. Wherever is my focus, that is the part of life that I experience and narrate. I am not 100% focused on any one level at any particular time, but on multiple levels simultaneously and in various degrees. My wisdom on love and life is limited and defined by what parts of me are experiencing and to what degree each part dominates the experience and the narrative.

I am a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual being. If my life focus is on the physical body, then my “wisdom” of life will be primarily physical, even though the other bodies are also involved in anything that I do. Similarly, if my daily focus is emotional in nature, then my emotions will rule my life and my wisdom will be primarily emotional in nature. Whichever part of my life dominates, that is how I would see the world; that is the source and definition of my wisdom. Being spiritual does not guarantee that I always make the right decisions and choices. Rather, the wisdom I garner depends on what is the most dominating factor, or body, in my life, or what holds the most power in my life.

Discovering the truth for myself — truth of facts, feelings, and memories of life are important to me. I ask myself: What is real? We can find the real from our own perspective. And, if people address themselves to each other in truth, then the truth is discovered in more layers. Truth is complex and multi-layered. Truth becomes richer and more layered when people interact with openness and honesty and speak from their personal wisdom. Truth is not static, but ever growing and expanding. If I am seeing truth only from my physical senses and experiences, then that is what I know is true. If I am able to expand into the emotional levels, and then mental levels, the truth is deeper and more layered. If I am able to penetrate into my mind and consciousness at even higher levels, then there are more layers of truth to be discovered and thereby, more layers of wisdom to be experienced. And, when I can truly listen to you with as many parts of me that I can muster, then new layers will be added to my wisdom on love and life.

Wisdom then is to be able to say truthfully that you understand a part of life, its cause and its effect; you have experienced it clearly and learned from it, and the experience changed something in you. Knowing something is not wisdom. Wisdom is not knowledge; it is experience of a reality that is embossed in you. Wisdom is love and knowledge through experience.

Love is an energy that keeps us alive and connected. If there is no love, there is alienation, separation, depression, and end of life. Love makes energy circulate if it is real and truthful and slowly integrates more levels of the person beyond the physical. If it is selfish and clinging love, it stops the movement and the growth; it makes us stagnate. The more layers we add to love, the more nourishing and connecting it is. Love can connect us to others and to the whole of life depending on our approach: what part of us is approaching? Or, rather, how many parts of us are approaching and how integrated are the parts that approach? And, is the integration deep and multi-leveled, continuously growing and expanding, or simply material based or self-centered? The wisdom of love is that it does give strength and joy and depth of character and meaning to our life when we fully understand that we cannot feel other than love.

Love includes our physical, emotional, and mental and also our spiritual self. To feel love is to have a better sense of self worth. To feel a deep love toward others, I need to love myself and appreciate who I am. Without love and actively loving ourselves we really cannot love humanity nor can we see any potential for healing or betterment of life. Our perspective on what life and love means are firmly rooted in our capacity to love, our capacity to be loved, and our capacity to express love truthfully on whatever level of complexity that we are able.

Love is a rose, or thorns, or both — the heavenly fragrance. True love means to forgive and to heal. Forgiveness means you relegate the pain of the thorns as a redemptive experience, means you entangle yourself with the fragrance and not the thorns. The thorns of love often make you appreciate the power of love and the reality of love and, even more importantly, give us the inner strength to serve and give and see life as a system of possibilities.

It is liberating to love without expectation. It is liberating to say you love no matter what the other does or does not do. It is liberating to see love in the rose and the thorns alike.

There is no separation between love and life. Wisdom is to know the unity of life.

My wisdom to what is life and love is applicable just for now. As I experience more facets of life, the roses and the thorns alike, then surely my wisdom about love and life will also deepen and grow in complexity. The answer is a moving and growing and organic expression, all depending on when you ask the question and when I take a snapshot of my life, and how deeply I understand the picture that I just took!

Thanks for asking.

Gita

- Gita Saraydarian is the Founder and President of TSG Foundation, an organization dedicated to the Ageless Wisdom Teachings. See the complete list of past blogs and other writings.
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